Sheryl Sandberg & the Youtube Comments Section


There’s a famous Harvard Business School study on a woman named Heidi Roizen. And she’s an operator in a company in Silicon Valley, and she uses her contacts to become a very successful venture capitalist. In 2002 — not so long ago — a professor who was then at Columbia University took that case and made it [Howard] Roizen. And he gave the case out, both of them, to two groups of students. He changed exactly one word: “Heidi” to “Howard.” But that one word made a really big difference. He then surveyed the students, and the good news was the students, both men and women, thought Heidi and Howard were equally competent, and that’s good. The bad news was that everyone liked Howard. He’s a great guy. You want to work for him. You want to spend the day fishing with him. But Heidi? Not so sure. She’s a little out for herself. She’s a little political. You’re not sure you’d want to work for her.”

– Sheryl Sandberg, COO of Facebook

Inspired, supercharged with hope,
Only to discover that I could not cope
With the senseless comments galore:

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Great comment, but in reality,
I present a counterexample seriously,
I am a woman with neither preference,
Therefore, your statement is an invalid inference. \square

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A woman who received highest distinction from Harvard,
Consultant at McKinsey,
Worked for the U.S. Secretary of Treasury,
Served as VP of global online sales at Google additionally.
So how can women gain inspiration
From this extraordinarily unaccomplished figure?
What an accommodation,
To natural behavior quite the perturbation,
For men to wash more dishes,
aXe m, why don’t we listen instead to your wishes?

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Dear Atlas,
Please brush up on your history,
Especially Curie, Herschel and Goodall sincerely,
Burnell, Rosalind and a sprinkle of Meitner.
Lovelace, McClintock and Hopper,
I could go on and on, for women continued to seek science,
In the face of vast societal and economic bias.

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“I think we can do well without the Thirteenth Amendment”,
“I think we can do well without Independence”,
“Up to this point the majority of childbirths have been from women,
So I don’t see why women should hand over parenthood to men.”
Quite the misnomer, don’t you see,
To view the status quo as complete,
To not embrace the promise of progress,
And instead, regress.

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I see that you are a time traveller in disguise,
Unable to shed your 18th century guise.
Let me lend you a hand,
It is imperative to understand
That there exist no such natural roles,
And history will always look unkindly upon those souls
Who stand on the side of such oppressive absurdity.


Verses for Breitbart

Now published in Resistance Poetry on Medium.

There Ought to Be a Cap on Women Studying Science and Maths
– This nonsense he defends,
For us fragile women do not have the mettle to contend
with the ferocious competition. We drop out because we cannot cope, shouts out
Milo Yiannopoulous, twice the college dropout.

Any soul sound in the head,
To  acquiesce to Breitbart’s drivel he shall never be compelled.
Or so I held,
Until I scrolled down and beheld
Horrific ignorance unparalleled.


you highly intelligent creature,
you should receive widespread acclamation
for so astutely figuring out that we have no aspiration.


you know best,
so we should just take a rest
and let you define what we should do with our life
for we do not choose careers to contribute to mankind, improve society, seek independence
no, we just want to be a wife.


oh susan
how cleverly you discern
that only men do the work their jobs require
while all women wallow in mire.


truly, I applaud you
for contributing to the discussion such a relevant breakthrough.
You deserve a Nobel
for conducting a survey so well
and applying its findings to serve all of womankind as well.


we are such liars,
to tell you that we can do science.
Only you can tell us the truth about our abilities
so why did we commit ourselves to such obvious impossibilities?


thank you for pointing out to me the reality
that Marie Cure was a fantasy.
Ada Lovelace, Lise Meitner and my fellow women at Caltech will reel with shocks
For it turns out that we don’t have the “chops”

Women everywhere, please note
that these comments and attitudes shall never denote
the breadth of your passions and extent of your capability.

Reaction to Why I’ll Never Date a Feminist

A day ago, a St. Joseph News-Press columnist published a piece titled “Why I’ll Never Date a Feminist”.  It’s ok, Dave. We won’t date you either.

“The truth is, I don’t blame women, (especially in my generation) for hating men. They’ve been told there’s a wage gap (I disagree). That there’s a culture of rape on college campuses (I also disagree). And the patriarchy is keeping them oppressed in almost every facet of their lives (I reallyreally disagree.)”

Sure. Because we only believe in what we’re told, right? It’s not like we have personal experiences and encounters with inequality. It’s not like we have facts. We’re just whining about trivial, nonexistent issues which are not real in any way at all because we love the idea of oppression.

“I was a cashier at an Italian restaurant in high school in the early 90s. I worked with a boy, also in high school, and learned he made more than me when we compared pay checks one day. Neither of us had any idea that we were being paid differently for the exact same job. I complained to the boss, one of the owners of the restaurant. At first, he tried to justify it by saying the boy was a grade older than me. Finally, he admitted that he just thought boys should be paid more. End of story. I was infuriated.” – Margaret, Los Angeles

“[Forty-five years ago], when asking my boss for insurance for myself and my child, I was informed that males in the company were married, so they got family insurance, but I was female and not married so I got squat.”
I repeated what my boss said back to him to see how it sounded to him. He shook his head and self-righteously said: ‘yes, a man with kids gets insurance but not a woman with a child.’ I was shocked and felt demeaned.” Jane, Lynwood VA

“My husband and I graduated together and got the same job at two different companies. I was hired a few weeks before he was. In his final interview, he mentioned I was being paid $33,000, so his company bumped my husband’s pay up to $36,000 so he would be earning more than I was. I started at my company at the same time and for the same salary as a new male graduate – but the company advised him to start a day before me so he would always have seniority over me.” – Cassandra, San Francisco

I knew for a while that others were paid at a higher rate compared to me. I just accepted that and I don’t really know why. I guess I thought I just wasn’t as good and others were slightly more experienced. I am an engineer and have a masters degree in my subject (and a lot of student debt to go with it), this is necessary for my job role, and this is my first company after graduating. I am the only female engineer. Others in the same role as me were less qualified, studying part time and having their fees paid for by the company, and also getting at least 1 day per week study leave. It was when I found out that their study day was not unpaid but paid at their normal day rate that I got angry and upset. I was fully qualified working 5 days a week. They were unqualified, earning 50% more than me and working only 4 days per week.I asked for a raise to match the others’ day rates. I stated my case and said it was not fair and that I would leave if it was not resolved. I was nearly fobbed off with a much smaller raise but I said again that I would not take anything less than being equal to the men. My supervisor agreed reluctantly. – Erin, UK

adapted from The Guardian’s article


Hysteria, hysteria, hysteria. We’re all just so hysterical.

“Women are more likely to graduate college, they live longer, are less likely to die in the workplace, less likely to go to prison and extremely less likely to die in war-time combat.”

You see? We’re so lucky. So very lucky. We have it all good. We should just stop complaining because it turns out that we don’t have any issues that need to be fought for anymore!

“It’s evident that gender politics is hurting our culture. More marriages are failing and women are reporting that they’re unhappier now than ever.”

Women everywhere, let us just abandon the cause of equality everywhere because it’s obviously making us unhappy. Why would we want equal pay, the right to choose and social justice? Logically, it’ll break up the peace and sanctity of our marriages and make us unhappier because “the increased opportunity to succeed in many dimensions may have led to an increased likelihood in believing that one’s life is not measuring up (from the enlightening Slate article linked to).” Woe us.

“There’s plenty of examples of how the justice system has failed victims. But, it also fails men….Often times, anti-male or anti-female rhetoric is rooted in a previous bad experience. They’re cultural opinions that reflect our world views, and thusly, affect how we want to raise our families”

Feminism = equality for women. I’m very sorry if you automatically see that as inequality for males. That is a slippery slope that leads to one illogical conclusion: feminism must be abandoned because it’s anti-male.

noun: feminism
  1. the advocacy of women’s rights on the grounds of political, social, and economic equality to men.

I assure you, it’s not. The whole point of feminism is to draw attention to women’s rights. If you want to draw attention to other inequality issues, by all means, go you. That does not and should not negate feminism. That does not and should not mean that feminist attention towards women’s inequality should be suppressed or subdued. It’s very sad that in this day and age, there exist groups and ideologies that belittle, mock and even oppose a movement whose entire goal is to advocate women’s rights and equality.


An Open Letter to McInnes

“Women do earn less in American because they choose to. They would rather go to their daughter’s piano recital than stay all night at work, working on a proposal, so they end up earning less. They’re less ambitious. This is sort of God’s way — this is nature’s way — of saying women should be at home with the kids. They’re happier there.”

– Gavin McInnes

I have no words. Your complete lack of logic makes me cringe.

There are 161 million women in America, and please remember that before you make such a generalization about us. What you are doing is looking at data and using it to support a claim that has absolutely no foundation. You cannot just look at the wage gap and formulate a stereotypical generalization that all women are unambitious and thus, earn less.  And if that isn’t enough, you go on to preach to us that if we are independent, working women, we’ve made a mistake and are unhappy.

All right, let’s pretend for a second that we live in a world where your logic works. This is what happens:

American students rank 35th out of 40 in math achievement in the world. Therefore, we are inherently unintelligent and this is nature’s way of saying that we should just drop out of school, because we’d be happier at home. Math majors in college, you’ve screwed up.

Not so logical now, is it?

As a 21st Century resident, you should already know this – there are PLENTY of “happy” women in the workforce. The woman next to you in your interview is one.

Yes, there is, nevertheless, a wage gap.

The Thirteenth Amendment was passed  150 years ago, and racism and racial gaps still exist. Decades of oppression cannot be fixed so easily. The Nineteenth Amendment was passed 95 years ago; yes, there are people alive who lived through times when women were not allowed to vote. So please, give us some time to bounce back.


A Happy STEMGirl

Note: I don’t mean this to be an accusation against anyone. He is fully entitled to his own opinion, and I am simply expressing my disagreement with it.